The first miscarriage happened in 2019 and the second one in 2020. In both instances, Geeta was in her first trimester. Both times, Harbhajan was by her side. In 2019 he flew down from Punjab when Geeta called to inform him. In 2020, the husband and wife were together owing to the lockdown. “Howsoever early it happens, if it’s your first trimester, the loss is felt by the mother far more than anybody else connected to her”.
I want to talk today. I want to tell those women who have had miscarriages and lost hope to pick themselves up again. They should not give up and suffer in silence yearning for a child. Yes, a miscarriage can have a terrible effect on you from which you might take a long time to come out. A couple of my friends have had miscarriages. But we as women have to learn to put this behind us in the quickest possible time.”
Continued Geeta, “The last two years have been traumatic for me no doubt but I held myself from breaking down. A woman’s hormones after a miscarriage go up and down a lot, which, in turn, makes it extremely difficult for her to maintain her composure. I kept myself strong and did not allow that meltdown to happen”.
After her second miscarriage, Geeta shifted to her in-laws’ place in Punjab, where she was aided by their motivation and her husband Harbhajan Singh‘s care. “It is important for a girl to have the right support system around her. Even before I got married, I was sure I wanted to have kids–not one but two. The bond formed between siblings is very strong and the first child always needs company. My daughter Hinaya is 5 years old now; if I had my way she would have been 3 years old when Jovan was born”.
Harbhajan told Geeta not to get worked up and that God will bless them whenever He has planned for it. And He did! Post the time she realised at her in-laws’ house that she was pregnant for the fourth time, Geeta took no chances whatsoever. “I decided to completely rest it out in the first trimester. I just took my vitamins and waited for the first three months to get over. After that, we came to Mumbai, and a little later, I took to yoga. That helped me a lot. Long works in the last trimester were a given. My gut instinct told me that this time all will go well. Touchwood, it did”.
All’s well that ends well, after all. We, at ETimes, once again extend our best wishes to Geeta and Harbhajan on the arrival of their second baby. Welcome to the world, Jovan Veer Singh! “They say there’s gold at the end of a rainbow and I found my gold,” Geeta concludes.
What is a rainbow baby?
A rainbow baby is a name coined for a healthy baby born after losing a baby due to miscarriage, infant loss, stillbirth, or neonatal death. The name “rainbow baby” comes from the idea of a rainbow appearing in the sky after a storm, or after a dark and turbulent time.